It is amazing to see how we are born into the world carried and cradled...and if we're lucky we can leave this world carried out by those remaining in this life. In between it all comes all the hopes and heartbreaks of love gained and love lost.
Sometimes I wonder, why all of the pain in between those moments. Do they really help us grow all the time? People who you thought were friends, aren't really all that understanding of you anyway. Relatives who use the name of family as if it were a badge to try to use you for whatever they can gain.
Even more disheartening, is when someone you're in love with turns around and hurts you. They either break your heart with a selfish, demeaning, or dismissive behaviors. Or even worse, they leave you. Or if your relation with your own son or daughter, mother or father isn't a good one...how much it will pain your heart when you fight and leave one another.
So what the heck does love have to do with all of this pain?
I guess when you think about it, through all of these thoughts there is just one thread...and that is the word love. The pain we feel is because of the love we have for the other person. Without that love, we could not feel any pain. It's hard to admit that we loved that other person and that's why they have hurt us, but at the end of the day, the reality is that we opened ourselves up to them and therefore allowed them to hurt us. But it all started with love for that person.
I guess that's what love has to do with this whole thing. It's the risks that we take. Some risks that reward us. Some that don't. It doesn't matter. It's really the actual growth in extending ourselves and finding our own souls being moved or made to feel comfortable and significant around another soul close to us. Or one that we wish to feel closer to.
When things are going well, it's all so so sweet and beautiful. It is easy to share and keep giving that love. But when things get bad and painful, we want to retract that love back. We feel angry and hurt for giving that love.
Love has everything to do with it. And so does risk. We have to love ourselves enough to take some risks. Otherwise we'll just pass through this world never knowing our potential or finding meaning to our lives.
One door opens and as another one closes. We end one relationship, no matter how painful only to allow ourselves to find a better one.
We are saddened about a love that we lost, perhaps we will learn how to better handle a better love that comes into our lives?
And so it goes. Just as when we were born. We all want to feel loved, wanted and appreciated by someone. We all want to have some kind of meaning and significance to someone around us. We just must chose our risks wisely and remember to appreciate love.
